I am just really shocked right now!!!! This is really SAD and horrible, and if I could figure out how to make someone not follow my blog I would BAN this person from my blog!!! I have been blogging for several months and have never had ANYONE leave me a comment that was negative in ANYWAY until I got a follower named Allan. I don't follow him so I can't link you to his blog, but trust me you do not want to go there anyway! He is basically against weight loss surgery, at least that is what I can gather from his blog (the little time I spent there!) I did not follow him first either. He followed me. The first comment he ever left me was this:
Great stuff, and I wish you all the luck and love in the world. Take a minute and come visit my little corner of crazy land. Start at the beginning, and think about it a little.
http://almostgastricbypass.blogspot.com/
Whatever you do, everyone is here to help !!!
I thought ok, I always try to follow everyone that follows me, so off to his blog I went and started following him before I ever even pulled up his actual blog. Once I followed him I went to his blog and noticed the name of it was "Almost Gastric Bypass." I thought that was weird, but really didn't think that much about it. I kind of figured he probably wasn't all about weight loss surgery, but never figured he would voice that or leave negative comments on my blog. Especially since my blog was about MY journey to get the lap band and MY life ;) Boy was I wrong. I couple post later he left this comment:
I love the positive thoughts. Please read, really read the blogs of the successful band folks. They are a great source of the realistic goals of the band, and the problems.. The best wishes...
I'll be honest when I read this comment it kind of made me upset. It might just be me, I might have just taken it wrong, but IT FLEW ALL OVER ME. I thought it was border line RUDE!!! I just felt like it was a negative comment. At this point I really just wanted him to stop commenting on my blog because I feel like I am at a point in my journey where I need nothing but SUPPORT and ENCOURAGEMENT in a POSITIVE atmosphere!!! I couldn't figure out how to make someone stop following your own blog, so I talked about it with Kim (Good Bye Fatty McButter Pants) to see if she had any ideas!!! I also asked her what she thought and she agreed with me about it almost being rude!!!! So, I decided to just defollow myself from his blog in hopes he would get the picture! I figured he would notice since he only had a few followers. No such luck. I wrote a post earlier and he left another really ugly comment. Much worse than any of the others. I can't paste it on here because when I responded to it he deleted it!!!! It went something along the lines of this:
If you are having weight loss surgery you need to stick to the plan and not eat a small country before you have surgery.
There was more to it, but that is the gist of it!!! It just really made me MAD!!!!!! And, it really hurt my feelings!!! I had had enough and this is what I responded:
Allan.....I really appreciate you following my blog and taking time to comment! I also really admire you for being able to loose weight without any type of weight loss surgery. I think that is great, but I also have tried to do it that way with out any success. I have done a ton of research on getting banded and I am sure of my decision. I would appreciate if you continue to comment on my blog they be positive comments. The past comments you have left, I feel, have been border line rude and disrespectful! I know myself and I know my limits. I will not be eating a small country before I have weight loss surgery! This is a POSITIVE blog about MY thoughts and feelings and MY journey to weight loss surgery!!!!! I really do not appreciate ANY NEGATIVITY!!!!!!
Not TOO mean but I believe I got my point across.......
Allan then decided to give me a SHOUT OUT on his blog! :) This is what he had to say about me: (I blanked out his cuss words on my own!!!!)
Lost another one today. My bad. If you ask people to comment about your story, or about your thoughts, then take them as they come, or don't f****** ask. You can call me fat, tell me I am insane, tell me I will fail, whatever you want, it is all good. If you are getting surgery, whatever kind, or on a diet, or just don't freaking care that you are 700 pounds because it makes you happy, then go with God and enjoy. If you are going to get a lap band, and have to start a special diet pre-surgery, and that start is in a week, it is not time to start the engines and put your local McDonald's out of business. We get the surgery and the need. It is food people, and if that is your comfort place, no surgery in the world will fix that ever. Worse, if you are in the state that we are in, and are getting surgery or are taking drastic measures to fix a problem, "I am getting surgery soon" should not be a reason to bulk up. God forbid you remind someone about this, albeit nicely, your a** is hated and ridiculed. Eat up, knock yourself out, we will support the efforts the week after. News flash from a real fat a** over here. It takes 18 solid months of watching everything you eat, with the surgery, to lose 90 pounds. See CHRISTINE'S story of success. Want to add 20 pounds in ten days, that 18 months becomes 21 months. Nice plan. Again, kudos for getting better, but why the f*** would you get worse before the start. IT IS JUST FOOD !!!!!
It is hard for me to even read this!!!!!! So, this is for ALLEN!!!! I just though I would clear up somethings!!
First of all, I never asked you to comment on my blog or even read my blog. You found me buddy, and you followed me. If you do not like weight loss surgery do not go around following people that their blog is entitled "Band Me...I'm Ready." I am far form 700 lbs. JERK and I still look better at my current weight than you will probably EVER!!! My pre-op diet doesn't start in a week. If you are going to waste your time by commenting on my blog at least have enough respect to read the post before you comment. I do not even have a pre-op appointment yet, but I can promise you I will! My local McDonald's is not going to go out of business. That comment is just really rude. Thank you very much I have only ate there 2x this week ;) Just a side note, it's rude to make fat jokes about fat people period, but especially rude when you are fat as well. I really appreciate your concern for me, but I KNOW MYSELF and YOU DO NOT KNOW ME! You have no right to decide for me that food is my comfort place, and I do not like you talking negatively about my surgery! It will work for ME because I have faith that it will and I AM READY. I did not hate on you or ridicule you. I find it offensive that you thought that. I simpley asked you to comment positively if you were going to comment. I have 104 other followers that will support me after I accomplish this surgery. I do not need your thoughts or opinions. I really love how you assume that I am having surgery in 10 days and that I am going to gain 20 lbs. in those days also. You have NO IDEA what you are talking about. Everyone is different and looses differently. I am a Christian and do not appreciate when someone speaks negatively into my life. I have never spoken negative things into your life and would appreciate the same respect from you. You know, you are having to take a drastic measure to loose weight also. Eating only 800 calories a day is drastic! Your right it is just food. Maybe you should have stopped eating at McDonald's sooner.
Oh, and Allan please defollow my blog!!!! I have 104 positive supporters beside you!
I am sorry if my wonderful followers think less of me, but enough is enough and I can not take his comments any longer!!!!
I love you all and appreciate ya'lls support through my journey this far!!!!!!
Please don't defollow me unless you are ALLAN!!!!! ;)
